Good etiquette makes the world go round. It’s what separates us from the thoughtless behaviour of doing anything we want without considering the consequences. Etiquette is particularly important when visiting a new place, especially foreign countries.
As one of the most peaceful countries in Southeast Asia, it’s safe to say that etiquette plays a big role in Vietnam too. Here’s a closer look at Vietnamese etiquette and what you should (and shouldn’t) do as a traveller:
Greetings
Greetings are the “first sign of politeness” when it comes to etiquette. It’s a basic act of respect that says a lot about your character—especially in Southeast Asian countries like Vietnam.
For starters, always greet them with a smile to show your respect and friendliness. Vietnamese people are very friendly and welcoming, so a warm smile can easily make you a friend or two.
Knowing simple Vietnamese phrases like “Xin chào” (hello) and “Cảm ơn” (thank you) can also go a long way. Even if your pronunciation isn’t perfect, locals will appreciate the effort.
Body Language
Certain gestures may be interpreted differently when it comes to Vietnamese etiquette. Avoid pointing at people or objects as this can come off as rude. Instead, use your whole hand when gesturing. Another important point to note is the head.
The head is considered sacred in Vietnamese culture so avoid touching someone’s head. This includes children and above all, the elderly. Similarly, pointing your feet at people or religious objects is considered impolite, as feet are viewed as the lowest part of the body.
Dress Code
Vietnam is a welcoming country, but it practises a more conservative culture. Your outfit should be moderate and appropriate especially when out in public. This applies to both major cities and rural areas.
Although city folks may be more open to modern clothing, it’s still best to keep it respectful. Avoid overly revealing clothing like short shorts, crop tops or low-cut fits.This is especially important when visiting temples or religious sites.
Some places may even require you to remove your shoes before entering, so wearing footwear that’s easy to take off is a good idea.
Public Behaviour
Vietnamese people are laid back and they do their best to keep cool in public. This is called the art of “saving face” and it helps locals avoid unnecessary conflict. Foreigners are expected to do the same so remember to keep your cool and avoid loud arguments.
Likewise, public displays of affection should be kept minimal. While holding hands is acceptable, hugging or kissing in public may make locals uncomfortable.
Table Manners
Food plays a big role in Vietnamese culture, while table manners plays an important role in Vietnamese etiquette. When dining with locals, wait for the eldest person to start before you do. This shows respect for age which is highly valued in Vietnam.
You should also avoid sticking your chopsticks upright in a bowl of rice. This resembles incense sticks used in funerals and is considered a symbol of bad luck. Place your chopsticks neatly on the side or across your bowl when not in use.
Other Vietnamese Etiquette Considerations
Gift Giving Etiquette
Gift giving is a thoughtful gesture when visiting someone’s home or meeting elders. Simple gifts like snacks or souvenirs from your country are usually appreciated.
Avoid giving items in sets of four, as the number four sounds like the word “death” in Vietnamese.
Visiting Temples and Religious Sites
Vietnam is home to many temples and pagodas. Proper behaviour is expected when visiting them so remember to speak softly and dress appropriately.
When making offerings, avoid touching sacred objects and always walk around altars instead of stepping over them.
Tipping Etiquette
Tipping isn’t rooted in Vietnamese culture, but it’s becoming more common in tourist areas. While it is not expected, tipping guides, drivers or waiters is a nice gesture that will not be overlooked—money is money after all!
Bargaining Etiquette
Haggling with local vendors is common in Asian countries. Vietnam is no different, but remember to bargain politely. Avoid being aggressive or confrontational, as this can cause locals to “lose face.”
If the price doesn’t suit you, a friendly “không, cảm ơn” (no, thank you) and walking away is usually enough.
Personal Space and Queuing
Vietnam can feel crowded, especially in big cities like Hanoi or Ho Chi Minh City. Personal space is viewed differently and close proximity in public spaces is considered normal.
Queuing may not be structured, so do your best to be patient.
Respect for Elders
Respect for elders is deeply ingrained in Vietnamese culture. Always greet older individuals first and allow them to take priority in conversations or seating.
Photography Etiquette
Language Tips for Better Vietnamese Etiquette
Locals don’t expect you to be fluent in Vietnamese. It is a tonal language after all, and it can be challenging for foreigners to learn, especially first-time visitors. With that said, locals still appreciate the effort, so why not learn a thing or two to help you integrate better?
The first thing you should do is learn some simple phrases. We’ve gone through “hello” and “thank you”, here are a few more that can come in handy:
- “Dạ” – A polite “yes,” often used when speaking to elders
- “Không, cảm ơn” – No, thank you
- “Xin lỗi” – Excuse me / Sorry
- “Làm ơn” – Please
- “Bao nhiêu tiền?” – How much is this?
- “Tôi không hiểu” – I don’t understand
- “Bạn có nói tiếng Anh không?” – Do you speak English?
With these simple phrases in mind, remember to keep your tone calm and gentle. Use simple English when communication becomes difficult, and don’t be too direct. English speakers are more common in major cities however, so you should have an easier time in those places.
Do as the Locals Do
When in doubt, just do as the locals do. There’s no better way to learn Vietnamese etiquette than by observing how the locals interact with their surroundings. So pay attention and follow their lead, and maybe find a local friend who can help you navigate social norms more confidently.
At the end of the day, Vietnamese etiquette is rooted deep in respect, and following their rules can help you have a much better time!
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